There’s Instagram reality and then there’s reality-reality. And if you’re a working mom, then you know that reality isn’t what goes on Instagram. Unless, of course, your name is Amy Betters-Midtvedt. This woman has taken imperfectly real motherhood to the next level. Here’s her story, in all of its imperfect glory.
Here is to the reality of being a working mom.
Just got 5 kids off to school, my helpful husband is out of town so I’m all on my own here.
This is the run down, it might sound familiar.
Woke up the troops after multiple alarms sound. Convinced them that yes indeed it was a school day and no I wasn’t kidding.
Kids fed. Cereal. Toast. Eggs. Tea. All the things you see behind me. Located and washed additional spoons because there are never enough of those things.
Forms signed. Agendas signed. Money for stuff put in envelopes and only some of it was quarters. Go me.
Endlessly discussed tsunamis, Hillary Clinton, the intricacies of cat behavior, how one learns to be a mime and what one needs in the ideal backpack.
Mediated several arguments over hairbrushes, shoes and whose turn it was in the bathroom.
Lunches packed and in backpacks. Cold packs found for those that needed them so no one dies of Salmonella. Didn’t have to resort to ice in baggies. #win
Lost socks found. Flannel shirt located. Talked the kid who didn’t have the “right shorts” down off the ledge.
After school activities reviewed. Reminders to drive safely given.
Kids walked to the bus. Watched the boy stand on one foot and timed him as requested. Gave hugs to the sad shorts girl.
And now it’s time to go to work.
The mess you see behind me will be waiting there after a full day. I will be cleaning it as I make dinner, deal with after-school snacks and homework while trying to get kids ready to go to all the places.
Perhaps you will be too.
Here’s to the moms who’ve already done all the things before 8:30 a.m. Who like me are rushing to their jobs because despite how we feel the day is just beginning.
And here’s to the at home moms of littles who want to thwart your efforts to deal with this same mess even though you are home.
We’re in the trenches here, my friends, so sometimes it looks like a bomb has gone off.
I know this too shall pass, someday we’ll be sitting in our tidy kitchens or leaving a silent house.
And from what I hear we’ll miss this.
We’ll miss these signs of love and life behind us. The crumbs and laundry and cereal bowls and stray socks.
So today I choose to cherish the mess. To leave the stress behind and know that it isn’t possible to do it all. To know that we are not meant to have super clean homes and awesome jobs and perfectly behaved children all at the same time.
That we will have glimmers of each of these things some of the time. And that is good enough. Because above all we have so much love. That mess behind me has love written all over it.
Because look what I found when they left today. This note. This proof of love. Be still my heart, these kids are the reason for the mess and they are the reason for the joy. And when they get tall they might also get thankful. So. Much. Love.
We’ve got this, my friends. Even if the state of our countertops makes it looks like we don’t.
This post originally appeared on the blog, Hiding In The Closet With Coffee.
I’m Amy Betters-Midtvedt and I write along with my friend and former teaching partner Erin over at Hiding in the Closet With Coffee. We write to help find our sanity and our joy and sometimes joy is found hiding out in the closet with our coffee…or hiding out on Facebook…come and join us! You can also find us hiding out over at Instagram, Pinterest and on Twitter.
I have been published on Scary Mommy, Huffington Post, Babble, Mamalode, Blunt Moms, Parent.co, TODAY Community, Red Tricycle and Sammiches and Psych Meds.
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