I don’t write a lot about my husband or my marriage on purpose. It’s something that I find sacred, important, and between he and I. So, it’s kind of a topic I don’t write about much.
But, maybe this leads people to think that he isn’t an important part of my life. But, the truth is, he is my rock. He is my landing place, and he is my home. I read this post today, and it is one of those posts that just inspires you to write because it is so beautiful. In fact, I was going to take the day off from blogging today, but changed my mind after reading her beautiful post about marriage. I couldn’t have said (or written) it any better. In fact, it’s pretty much perfect.
My husband and I just celebrated our 11 year anniversary a few weeks ago. I didn’t blog about it, and that post made me remember. We didn’t do anything grand. In fact, I had family in town and we just went to lunch together and then shopping. We bought a couch. Boring stuff to most, but to people that have been married 11 years, with three kids? It was just a few hours to focus on each other. And, that was good. Sure, it wasn’t a trip on a beach, or an overnight somewhere, but we had some alone time. Something we don’t get that often these days.
And, as a result of that lack of alone time, we often are running like crazy doing our own things, and not seeing each other the way we should. But, when I stop and truly see who he is, I’m so grateful. Or sometimes I catch him doing something good, or even ordinary, and I’m happy all over again that we decided to build a life together.
There are many, many times where we start a conversation and end it days later because the screams and demands from little ones were too much to handle along with trying to process adult conversation. It can take a toll on any marriage.
But, at the end of the day, I still know that the life we are building is worth all the things in between that cause us to feel crazy. I know that our marriage is something that will last. I love him more in a way that a blog post couldn’t possibly encapsulate, which is why I don’t write it at all most times. But, we’re flying through life together, sometimes at rocket speeds, and there is no one else I’d rather be doing it with.
You don’t write about it much but I vaguely remember enjoying the post about how you guys got the ball rolling on this relationship. I think it was you…shy guy, late night something or other, non drinkers. I remember that you’re non drinkers. Never mind.
Yes, that’s exactly how it happened. *eye roll*
Wasn’t that you? There were hand written letters and you called him a loser or he thought you did? Not nice, Mormon!! Lol.
yes. Yes, that’s me. The mean mormon.
Lovely post. I do sometimes write about my marriage and husband but usually only to joke about it and him. Thankfully he has a great sense of humor. Happy belated anniversary.
Thank you! 🙂
Congrats! We just had 11 as well, and we have the matching backgrounds!?
Congrats to you too!! 🙂
Yeah. Some days i feel like we just pas each other in the house, taking turns wrangling the children. Even after bedtime there’s no conversation. Those moments in the grocery store together are sacred, aren’t they?
Beautiful tribute to your husband! Congrats!!! It is so great to have a partner to go through life with!!!
We just had our 13th (lucky) and she is the best. Couldn’t ask for anyone better to handle the bitter.
I read that article of cup of Jo too, and it was such a perfect piece of writing that encapsulated my life so well…I sometimes write about my marriage but more than not, I delete my writing as its too personal, too many people we know read my blog (my fatherinlaw!!!!!> and that stops me. I think it’s time to wake up from all the fakery and perfectness, although, god dammit I do love the rockstar diaries!!! 🙂