I find myself saying the words every once in a while, “before we had kids…” I think of those 4 years we were married fondly now. They seem dreamy and perfect. Full of carefree days, peaceful dinners out, and lots of hopping in the car and doing something last minute. It makes me sad in a way. The loss of that special time when it was just about me and him. But I look at my children and wouldn’t change a thing. Life is harder now. We never had it perfect in those 4 years. I remember days where we fought, stressed about graduate school and college and jobs, worried about family issues in our respective families. But now, it seems like a perfect 4 years. Frozen.
I started this blog after our first was born. So it quickly became all about them. Those 3 little people that consume our whole world now. But before them, it was us. Two people excited to do things, go places, become adults with a house, a job, and a family. We’ve got that now. So I guess I feel the need to reflect and think about before we had kids. And, of course write about it. Because I don’t have the story of those 4 years written down. But, once a week I’m going to blog about those four years. So I won’t forget.
One thing we used to do a lot was snowshoe together. My sweet husband, born and raised in Utah, thought he would teach this Texas girl how to ski. After one skiing trip when we were dating, he must have decided snowshoeing was more up my alley. What? you aren’t supposed to do the snow plow the whole way down? Straighten my skis so i go faster!? No way. Ahem. He was right.
Today we captured a feeling like we had in those early years. We went snowshoeing. For a whole 30 minutes.
Hey, when you have kids you’ll take what you can get. It was fun. We remembered how fun it was. We remembered how fun it is to do stuff like that together. You know, like before we had kids. I like my husband. But marriage, a house, 3 kids, real job…. Those are things that can make you forget you don’t just love each other. You really like each other. I do like him. A lot.
So my advice. Do something together that you used to do pre-kids. It will remind you of those early years frozen in time. Even 30 minutes can do wonders.