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Avery

I Now Have a Seven-Year-Old.

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Just a warning for all of my new followers, sometimes, my blog will be just your typical mom post gushing over her kids. Today is one of those.

Because yesterday, my firstborn turned 7 years old. How 7 years has flown by since I’ve become a mother is beyond me. One of my favorite sayings is that as a mom, days seem like weeks and weeks seem like days. Or something like that. That’s so true. When you’re in the moment, sometimes, it seems like motherhood can drag on forever. Like you are stuck in a certain stage for way too long. Like you will never get passed the sleepless nights, the molars that they are cutting, or the potty training. But, before you know it, they really are big kids right before your eyes. And, I see that every day in my little girl. She is starting to roll her eyes at me, and say big kid stuff, and just act more grown up than I can stand like when she needs alone time just to read a book.

I do love, however, some of the independence that she is gaining. Like being able to fix her own cereal in the morning, and read instructions for a new toy, and shower all by herself. Those things feel a little magical to me. Like, how did we get here all of a sudden? And, when she told me that she wanted to get her ears pierced for her birthday, I didn’t think she would really do it.

For a couple of years, she’s been asking, and I always tell her, “Well, it really hurts, but if you want too…” Usually, she would change her mind, but this time, she was determined. JD was hesitant to let a kid that still sucks her thumb at night get her ears pierced. He has a point. But, to me, it wasn’t that big of a deal, so he gave in.

I can’t believe how she hardly even flinched! She didn’t cry, and although she said it did hurt, she was totally over it within seconds. Now, every time I look at her and see her earrings, I can’t believe how fast time has gone by.

After the ear piercing, we were off to Benihana for dinner. The kids were excited to see their food cooked right in front of them.

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The whole crew. The girls were a little hyper, can you tell?My mom is in town for the special occasion and was very helpful by making her white cake with fudge frosting. A recipe from her mother that is kind of famous in my family. Here she is pre-party whipping the fudge.

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Then Avery, Kyle and Avery’s friend, Jadyn  helped decorate.

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The birthday girl is ready to celebrate. Minus another tooth she just lost!

Like most parents, I can’t say enough about how much I adore this little girl. Because of her, I became a Mom, and while she tortured me a little coming into the world with no epidural, once she got here, she has been a pure delight in almost every way. She is so sweet, and innocent. She is super kind-hearted, and loving. She is patient with her little brothers, and such a good little mama in every way helping me with them when she can. She has become my go-to kid in many ways to watch Chandler for me for a minute while I do something, or make silly faces at him in the backseat to keep him awake close to nap time until we get home. She is usually super helpful when I ask her to do anything. She loves to swing in the backyard, read books, play with her little brothers, ride her bike, and just have fun. She writes excellent stories, and is very good at drawing too.

Here are some of her favorite things right now:

Favorite color: Blue

Favorite book: Junie B. Jones

Favorite friends: Tatianna and Jadyn

Favorite food: chicken pot pie

Favorite place to eat out: Benihana

Favorite sport: gymnastics

Favorite thing to do: art

Favorite part of school: art

Favorite toy: art set

Favorite game to play: house

What do you want to be when you grow up? A teacher

Favorite thing to do w/ Mommy: Go out to eat

Favorite thing to do w/ Daddy: go on bike rides

Favorite thing to do w/ Kyle: Play Littlest Pet Shop

Describe your dream day: Go to Lagoon, Go to the zoo, Go to the aquarium

Her friend asked her yesterday at dinner if this was her best birthday ever. She said yes. I’m so glad.
She told me this morning that just like her friends she now has her ears pierced, and she FINALLY got a booster seat. No more car seat for her. She is beyond thrilled that she can turn around in the car now and see out the back window. If she wasn’t such a lightweight, maybe we would have gotten there a little sooner.
More than anything, I’m glad I get to be this special little girl’s mommy everyday. Happy Birthday sweet girl!


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  1. Ashley Austrew says

    June 26, 2013 at 4:16 pm

    She is so precious! I love those freckles!

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    • fakingpictureperfect says

      June 26, 2013 at 4:17 pm

      Thank you!

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  2. Simple Northern Life says

    June 26, 2013 at 4:28 pm

    So precious, wait until they become a teenager, my daughter Becca turned 13 in April ironically she finally decided to get her ears pierced. You have such a delightful blog and I am so pleased to read your posts. I look forward to following you, have a wonderful night, Allie.

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  3. mithriluna says

    June 26, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    What a sweet post. 🙂

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  4. Lindsey Williams says

    June 26, 2013 at 4:55 pm

    I just can’t believe how big and brave she is. What a beautiful, sweet, special girl. There’s a reason I always called her the “perfect” child!

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  5. monk-monk says

    June 26, 2013 at 6:57 pm

    Okay stop, this is the cutest thing ever. She is such a little sweetheart! Look at that beaming smile! I’m glad you let her get her ears pierced for her birthday, it looks like it was the perfect time for her to do it! Congrats to you, on surviving 7 years of mama-hood 🙂

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    • fakingpictureperfect says

      June 26, 2013 at 8:31 pm

      Thank you! Yes, it was the perfect time, it’s just killing me how grown up she is looking.

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  6. Rayna Drago says

    June 26, 2013 at 8:13 pm

    Happy Birthday to Avery!!! Cutest girl around besides Sienna. 😉 She showers by herself??? Joy!! I can’t wait till bath days are over! Such a happy day…so cool! Oh and u are a mini me of your mom!!!

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    • fakingpictureperfect says

      June 26, 2013 at 8:31 pm

      Yes. My Mom and I look a LOT alike.

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  7. Liz @ TheLambentLife says

    June 26, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    So sweet!

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  8. bensbitterblog says

    June 26, 2013 at 10:28 pm

    The title and picture made it seem like you adopted a 7 year old. Totally tricked me.

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    • fakingpictureperfect says

      June 27, 2013 at 6:11 am

      Glad I’m keeping you on your toes!

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  9. Amber Perea says

    June 26, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    Happy birthday to Miss Avery!

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  10. Perfectly Imperfect says

    June 27, 2013 at 3:42 am

    Happy Birthday to Avery. She is a beautiful young lady. I’m in love with her freckles. Sounds like she had a wonderful birthday.

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  11. mkstump says

    June 27, 2013 at 8:53 am

    She is so cute! I love the freckles!

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  12. BritneyDearest says

    June 27, 2013 at 9:11 am

    This is so sweet!!

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    • fakingpictureperfect says

      June 27, 2013 at 2:44 pm

      not at all…I probably stole it from someone else a few years ago…I’ve been doing it a few years now and it’s fun to see how her answers change. 🙂

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