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They Missed Me. Manic Mondays Blog Hop #9

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This post is going to be short, sweet, and a little sappy. Not typical for my normal Manic Mondays posts.

Saturday night, I got struck out of nowhere with a horrible stomach bug. Luckily, I was the only victim. But, it’s the sickest I’ve been in a long time. I didn’t sleep much that night, and so Sunday, I was kind of in and out of consciousness in my bed trying not to make more trips to the bathroom.

Thank GOODNESS my husband was home. I was able to quarantine myself as much as possible to my bedroom while the husband took care of the 3 kids. I would fall asleep as they were running around, screaming, fighting, and laughing happily in the next room. I was grateful that there were mostly happy noises going on and I could sip on my water and stay very, very, still.

By last night, I could tell my husband was exhausted. Taking care of a sick wife and three kiddos is no joke. And, he wasn’t exactly sleeping while I was up all night in the bathroom.

While I was laying in bed at one point, I heard my 7 year old say to my husband, “I miss Mommy.”

This made my heart melt. For one, she is not the child that wants to cuddle with me constantly or is very verbal about how she feels. So, hearing that she missed me? After one day? There are no words.

When they came into my room last night to say prayers, my 2 year old smiled at me like he hadn’t seen me in years. “Mommy!!” he said. He was lunging at my sick bed wanting to snuggle.

I am not grateful for getting sick, but I am grateful when life slows us down a bit. Sometimes, we need that to realize how important we all are to each other. And, that life is about the little things.

My agenda today is to shower (which luckily is already out of the way)

Eat some toast and drink some sprite.

And, hopefully clean my bathroom and do some laundry.

Oh yeah, and keep my kids alive.

 


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  1. Ana says

    January 20, 2014 at 12:49 pm

    Oh boy, I know how bad having the super bug is! I got it during Christmas and was very difficult for me to deal with a pregnant belly and toddler to watch. I would try to relax and take it easy if you can. Hope you recover quickly!

    Visiting from your SITS tribe – hope to connect!

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  2. Kathleen says

    January 20, 2014 at 7:40 pm

    Oh, I hope you are feeling better soon! It is a terrible thing to be a momma and be sick but it does make you feel good to see your children care for you.

    I can’t wait to get to know you more! Visiting from the SITS tribe.

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    • Meredith says

      January 20, 2014 at 8:03 pm

      Thanks for stopping by!! 🙂 I’m already feeling a little better, so hopefully I can squeak out a better blog post this week!

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  3. Kerry says

    January 20, 2014 at 8:47 pm

    Amen, my friend..same thing happened to me late Friday afternoon. My kids were so sweet and kind of confused that mommy was bedridden. My daughter did everything under the sun to make me feel better: brought me an armload of her and my books, a picture to hang on the wall with tape, a Pepto chewable, a picture of she and her brother for my nightstand, Pixie dust (aka glitter) in a box, kid water cups, etc…it went on until I reassured her mommy is fine 😉 They are too sweet!

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    • Meredith says

      January 21, 2014 at 8:11 am

      Awww! That is precious. My germaphobe self wouldn’t allow my kids near me. 🙂

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  4. superSAHD says

    January 20, 2014 at 8:51 pm

    Toast and sprite FTW.

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    • Meredith says

      January 21, 2014 at 8:12 am

      Yes.

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  5. Karen says

    January 21, 2014 at 7:29 am

    Awh it is so hard when you are sick and the little ones just don’t quite understand – hooray your hubby was at home though to ‘hold the fort’ as they say! Hope you’re feeling better soon….high five to toast and sprite for yukky tums!

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    • Meredith says

      January 21, 2014 at 8:12 am

      Thanks Karen!

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  6. Jen says

    January 21, 2014 at 8:03 am

    Being sick as a parent is so much more difficult then before! Hope you are feeling better.

    Here from the SITs tribe! I’m now following you everywhere!

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    • Meredith says

      January 21, 2014 at 8:12 am

      Thanks Jen!!

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  7. Ana Lynn says

    January 23, 2014 at 2:06 pm

    I just found your weekly even via WordPress.com and I can relate to it wholeheartedly. Also, some plain boiled rice works wonders for stomach flu, even if it doesn’t taste all that great.

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    • Meredith says

      January 23, 2014 at 2:07 pm

      Thanks!! Yes, my husband always tells me to use the BRAT diet. Bananas, rice, applesauce, toast. 🙂 Hope you link up with us!! thanks for stopping by!

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  8. Petra says

    January 24, 2014 at 7:47 am

    Boo to sickness bugs. I’m in the toast phase myself. I meant to link up on Monday but the bug said no.
    Kids are super cute when they are trying to make you feel better. My little monkey sat on the bed this morning and sang me Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star to help me feel better. Normally, he would rather play train crashes and run around but today it was Twinkle Twinkle for mummy. 🙂
    Hope you are feeling stronger today.

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    • Meredith says

      January 24, 2014 at 8:25 am

      Oh no! So sorry you have it too!! I hope you feel better quickly. Unfortunately, my stomach bug was immediately followed by a horrible chest cold, and so I’m going on day 6 of being sick, but at least I’m not throwing up anymore!! Hope you’ll link up this next Monday! I barely got the link up myself because of my own recovery this week.

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