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Coping with Loss

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I apologize for my lack of blogging lately. I’ve had good reasons. It’s been a crazy summer, and I’ve been contemplating a lot of things. Couple that with the loss of a dear, and trusted friend, and it’s been quite a lot for me to take in.

I thought I’d blog a little about that friend today. It came as quite a shock to me when I lost her. She had been by my side for, I think, close to twenty years, but the truth, is that I don’t remember exactly when we met.

You see, there came a point in my life where I left home, and had to cut the cord. Gone were the days of relying on my parents, and it was time to become independent. So, I purchased my very first hair dryer. I suspect it was sometime around 1996, but it may have been sooner.

Coping with Loss

That hair dryer unexpectedly died a tragic death a couple of weeks ago. Cause unknown. It happened shortly after I decided to cut off all of my hair, thus requiring daily hair styling in order to look somewhat normal. Maybe it was just too much for her to take in.

When she finally stopped working, I tried slamming her against the counter a few times, and that kept her alive for a few minutes, but the 18-20 years worth of hair lint that had piled up, coupled with the constant need I suddenly had for her seemed to just take it’s toll. It was time for her to give up.

I called my sister.

“Wait. WHAT? You’ve had the same hair dryer for almost 20 years?” she asked in shock.

“I know. Crazy huh? I’m so sad.” I replied.

“What kind was it?” she demanded to know.

“I’m not sure. The letters on the side have been rubbed off. I think it was a Revlon.” I said forlornly.

“That’s insane. I buy a new hairdryer almost every year.” she said.

“REALLY?” I asked in disbelief and suddenly terrified of buying a new hair dryer. Would it last? Would I suddenly need a hairdryer budget?

“Yeah. One time, I bought one and had to return it twice.” she said.

It was almost too much for me to take. Coping with loss is never easy. This hair dryer had traveled the world with me, going away to college with me, on a mission for my church, crossing state lines hundreds of times, and living on both the east and west coasts. We had a history.

And, honestly, it just all felt so…..I don’t know…Ironic.

I had just said goodbye to my other trusted friend, the ponytail. She and I were close too. I had super long hair before I chopped it all off this summer, and I was just tired of looking like that frazzled mom with the pony everyday. So, I made my peace, and decided to do something insane. Go with a haircut that would require styling everyday to look normal.

I know. I had lost myself for a moment. I must have thought I was a celebrity mom with my own personal stylist that could pull it off. Instead, I’m just me. And, now my already hectic mornings will be cut short by the need to style my hair. With a hair dryer. And a brush. That was fun for exactly 3 mornings. Now, it is a dreaded task that makes me long for the days of my ponytail.

So, the death of the hair dryer at almost the exact moment that I needed her most, felt truly ironic. And, maybe a little bit like the universe was telling me that I just need to accept the fact that I’m a mom to three kids, and the ponytail is my signature.

But, let’s be real. Probably the only reason my trusted friend lasted that long was because she and I met only once a week for the obligatory hair drying session before church. The only time every week that I had to use her. So, when I suddenly needed her every day after 18 years of faithful, once a week, hair drying sessions. It was all just too much. I can’t say that I blame her. I hated every minute of those sessions too.

So, this summer, I said goodbye to my friend. I haven’t tossed her yet, even though it’s been a couple of weeks. Maybe now, I will be able to say goodbye.

I did eventually find a new friend, though.

Revlon Hair Dryer

But, she comes with a retractable cord and a folds in half for extra storage space. So basically, I’m not sure she can be trusted. Only time will tell.

 

 


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  1. Kim says

    August 21, 2014 at 8:30 am

    Haha! I know what you mean; six years ago my own hair dryer of 10+ years finally died. I bought a new one that's been significantly better and is still going strong! Hang in there - your hair will grow back soon enough. :) I like to cut mine short enough that it encourages styling but is long enough for a ponytail in case of emergency.
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  2. Jessie says

    August 21, 2014 at 9:46 am

    I think I shall add hair dryers to reasons not to cut my ponytail off. I've never owned one, it'd seem wrong to start now...
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    • Meredith says

      August 21, 2014 at 2:20 pm

      Definitely. Don't do it!! :)
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  3. Megan Lisica says

    August 21, 2014 at 11:15 am

    I have done the ponytail cut as well. I know exactly how you feel. I resorted to clips and headbands and hats, lots of cute hats on the days I didn't feel like fixing my hair. My hair when it is short stands straight up from all directions. It was a shock the first morning I woke up and saw myself after a night of tossing and turning and them my short hairs reaction! ;) It will grow back or you will learn to love it. time will tell. I recently just cut 6 inches off mine and added bangs! I haven't had bangs in forever. Reliving the 80's I suppose...I was also trying to rid myself of the scraggly ponytail mom look. I hated pics of me in my ponytail. All face and seemingly no hair. I actually don't mind the bangs and they are pretty easy to tame with a little water. Good luck!! :)
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    • Meredith says

      August 21, 2014 at 2:22 pm

      Thanks Megan for the hair encouragement. :) I just hope with your new bangs you aren't teasing them ….right?
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      • Megan Lisica says

        August 25, 2014 at 10:19 am

        Nope! But that gave me a great idea for a Halloween costume...80's style! ;)
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  4. Tania says

    August 21, 2014 at 2:06 pm

    You made me laugh out loud. I wish you luck, because they certainly don't make things the way they used to. Sincerely, A mom who rocks a ponytail at least twice a week and all-day, every-day on the weekends! :)
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    • Meredith says

      August 21, 2014 at 2:22 pm

      I envy you. Glad I could make you laugh. :)
      Reply
  5. Ana Lynn says

    August 22, 2014 at 8:22 am

    I am sorry for your loss. Even though I hate hair dryers in general with a passion and let my hair air dry much to my mother's outrage. I've missed you.
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  6. Kim says

    August 22, 2014 at 4:49 pm

    Just so you know, I had to follow suit and go get a haircut. I didn't let them take enough to nix the ponytail, but I"m going to have to start styling it. The stylist was kind enough to remind me that waiting 6 months between haircuts isn't a good idea. Oops.
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  7. John says

    August 30, 2014 at 2:56 am

    Women and their hair. Maybe it's really time for you to accept that you are beautiful inside and out regardless of the hairstyle you are sporting. And who says ponytails are a signature of moms? I refuse to believe it.
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  8. Nicola Young says

    September 1, 2014 at 3:02 am

    Welcome back. I hope you are coping with your new friend. Technology has no doubt moved on and there are probably loads of extra buttons that you haven't got a clue how to use. Hair dryers usually blow up on me every few years, giving a nice little electric shock at the same time. I have annoying thick hair that is neither curly nor straight, so I am afraid to say that I rely on my trusty friend, but even more so, her sister, the hair straightener. She's a babe.
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