Let’s analyze this for a second. Why do seemingly innocent motivational quotes like this make me anxious? Anyone else feel this way?
I saw this posted on FB today, and I immediately gasped inwardly and thought, “Oh no. My children are ruined forever”. It’s not because I feel like I am that horrible of a Mom or that I talk to them in some demeaning way, but, I’m not sure why I feel like that. I guess it is because I am an over-analyzer (especially of myself) by nature, and when something makes me analyze even more, then that is not good for me.
However, the normal Mom probably looks at this and thinks, “I’m such a good Mommy then! My kids will always love themselves because I say positive things everyday to my children”. OK, I know no one says that, but in my head, that’s what other mothers are saying. Except for the really bad ones that are demeaning and horrible to their kids. Do they have FB accounts?
The truth is, I do try to recognize that my children have innocent little spirits that can be influenced by what I say. Like recently, I noticed that I was saying to my 3 year old, “What is wrong with you?” a lot when he would do stuff. And, by stuff, I mean write on his brand new bedspread with a permanent marker the first day we put it on his bed kind of stuff. You know, he’s a boy. He acts before he thinks. But, I noticed that this phrase was coming out of my mouth a lot. I also noticed that he would make a very sad face when I would say it. Mommy guilt! So, I have since changed the phrase to be slightly more positive and say, “What were you thinking?” Not sure that is much better, but I’m working on it.
So, the take away is what? I’m not sure. This is just an example that came up in my life today that reminded me of the inner anxiety I feel on a daily basis being responsible for raising three human beings. Why can’t I just let go and not worry about damaging my children forever? Thoughts like this are what keeps me up at night. Baby steps, I know. Baby steps.