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15 Smart Ideas to Help Kids Calm Down and Manage Anger and Anxiety

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As a mom, the most helpless feeling is watching your child struggle with anxiety, stress, or controlling their anger. It’s the worst when you can’t help kids. I have witnessed this in my own kids as they have thrown temper tantrums, been too stressed out to cope, and battled anxiety issues and worries.

Growing up, I never was taught as a kid healthy coping strategies to deal with my emotions. But in therapy, I have learned valuable skills that have helped me with my own parenting and mental health, and also helped me teach my kids. Kids have big emotions (just like we do as adults).

If you have a child that struggles with anxiety or anger issues, then you need these ideas. These are smart strategies to help your child feel peace and calm down. #anxiety #kids #calmdown

15 Ideas to help kids calm down and manage their big emotions

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I hope these ideas will help you and your child that might be struggling. And, thanks to the many smart moms that share these ideas with us!

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Wheel of Coping Skills @ Art of Social Work

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Calming Strategy Cards @ Liz’s Early Learning Spot

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Copecakes Method @ The Momentous Institute

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Worry Eaters on Amazon (Kids write their worries on paper and these cute little monsters eat them)

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Anger Catcher @ Home Stories A to Z

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Coping Tool Box @ Canadian BFRB

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Calm Down Cubes @ Crafty Counselor Chick

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Llama Llama Mad at Mama on Amazon

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Calm Down Sandwiches @ Corner on Character

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Mind Jar @ Juggling with Kids

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Calm Down Kit @ Mrs. Jackson’s Kinders

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Printable Calm Down Cards @ And Next Comes L

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Take 5 Breathing Printable Poster @ Childhood101

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Worry Warrior @ Crayola.com

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Printable Feelings Cards @ Life Unadorned

More Resources to Help Kids:

  • 20 Fun Activities To Help Kids With Anxiety
  • 4 Easy, Kid-Friendly Relaxation Techniques to Stop Stressing Now
  • How to Help Your Anxious Child via Parents.com
  • 9 Things Every Parent with an Anxious Child Should Try via The Huffington Post

My Must-Have Resources to Help Kids:

  • Help your kids by helping yourself – get my favorite parenting book
  • All of my favorite products on Amazon

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  1. Karen says

    March 16, 2018 at 1:19 am

    I am trying to download your calm down kit but can’t access. Is it possible for you to send it to me – I really need something like this for a little boy in my class ASAP.
    Thanking you kindly

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  4. Janet says

    August 12, 2018 at 7:44 pm

    These are some promising behavioral modification techniques for kids! Thanks for sharing!

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  5. Audrey Adam says

    August 15, 2018 at 7:51 am

    I find your article very interesting…. thank you for the tips, I will use some of them for sure!

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  6. Manas Paul says

    August 16, 2018 at 11:03 pm

    Thanks for the information

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