Hey there friend, I know life can be tough sometimes, but I want you to know that you’re not alone in feeling like you hate your life as a mom and a wife. Being a mom and a wife can be a lot of work, and it’s understandable that you might feel overwhelmed at times. We’ve all been there, and we’ve all had those feelings.
I want to remind you that it’s okay to feel this way, and there’s no shame in admitting it. Sometimes saying out loud what we’re going through is the first step in getting over those hard feelings and moving on from them.
It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and not brush them aside or suppress them.
If you’re feeling unhappy or unfulfilled, it’s important to address those emotions and try to understand where they’re coming from. So, let’s dive into why you might be feeling this way.
One reason you might hate your life as a mom and wife is that you’re not getting the support you need.
Being a mom and a wife can be a lot of work, and it’s crucial to have a strong support system in place. If you’re not getting the help you need from your spouse or family, it can feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.
The mental load of motherhood is intense and we all struggle to keep all the things going that we need to in order to keep a house running, kids safe, and be mentally well ourselves.
Another reason you might hate your life as a mom and wife is that you’re not taking care of yourself.
It’s easy to put yourself last when you’re busy taking care of others, but self-care is essential for your mental health and well-being. Whether it’s taking a long bath, going for a walk, or indulging in a hobby you love, it’s essential to make time for yourself.
And no, a trip alone to Target doesn’t have to count as your self care if that doesn’t make you feel restored and rejuvenated. Make sure you aren’t selling yourself short when it comes to self-care. A shower is not self care.
Additionally, it’s possible that you might be struggling with feelings of guilt or inadequacy.
It’s common to feel like you’re not doing enough or not being the perfect mom or wife. But the truth is, no one is perfect, and it’s okay to make mistakes. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s all anyone can ask for. I’ve struggled with perfectionism too, and it can definitely lead you to hating your life as a mom or a wife.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
People are so quick to judge if we dare say out loud that motherhood is miserable sometimes. But, sometimes it can feel that way. And, no you’re not a bad mom if you feel that way from time to time.
But, what you can do to improve your situation if you hate your life as a mom and a wife?
First and foremost, it’s crucial to communicate your feelings to your spouse or family members.
Let them know how you’re feeling and what you need from them. Whether it’s help with the kids or just some time to yourself, it’s essential to be clear about your needs. If you can tell someone you feel like you’re drowning, or that you never get a break from the kids, and you desperately need one, odds are that someone is going to be willing to jump in and help.
Another thing you can do is to make self-care a priority.
Schedule time for yourself, whether it’s a few minutes each day or a few hours each week. Make sure to do something you enjoy and that makes you feel good. The key is finding something that rejuvenates and restores you.
What self-care would you do if you had zero responsibilities and no kids to worry about? What makes you feel alive, or the most like you? That’s the self-care you should try to get for yourself some how.
It’s also important to remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can.
It’s easy to get caught up in feelings of guilt or inadequacy, but it’s important to remember that you’re doing the best you can with the resources and time you have. Give yourself grace and remember that it’s okay to make mistakes.
Lastly, if you’re still struggling with your feelings, consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor.
They can help you work through your emotions and provide you with the tools you need to improve your situation. There is no shame at all in seeking out help from a professional. I’ve done it, and it will only help you be the best mom you can be for your kids.
In conclusion, being a mom and a wife can be a lot of work, and it’s understandable to feel overwhelmed or unhappy at times.
But it’s important to acknowledge your feelings and address them.
Communicate your needs, make self-care a priority, and remember that you’re doing the best you can. You’re not alone in this, and there’s no shame in seeking help if you need it. You’ve got this, and I’m here rooting for you.
And if you really are still struggling I hope you’ll grab my new book, The Mother Load. It’s probably exactly what you need.
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