It’s no secret that at some point in your job as a mom you will for sure be called THE MEANEST MOM IN THE WHOLE ENTIRE WORLD. That’s because you probably are a mean mom. At least in the eyes of your kids.
But what good, mean moms know best is that sometimes being mean is the thing that helps our kids grow up to be respectful, decent humans.
I don’t know about you, but I’d rather be called a mean mom than a pushover any day of the week. And, if you’re not mean from time to time, you just aren’t doing it right.
So, here are 10 things mean moms have in common.
We make our kids clean up their own messes.
Much to the dismay of my first-born who is now 9 year old, I’m so mean, sometimes I make my kids wipe the counter and clean up their own crumbs. If they walk around while simultaneously destroying the kitchen by eating cookies because they are doing jumping jacks, they will have to get out the vacuum and clean it up.
Mean Moms make them take responsibility.
Forgot your homework? That’s fine the first time, but the next time, sorry. You’ll have to turn it in late. And, I’m so mean that if I catch my kids in a lie there is a punishment. If they break something, they have to make it right. In other words, I’m so mean, my kids have to be accountable for their actions.
We make them wear clothing that will protect them from the weather and/or help them not look homeless.
While wearing a jacket seems like some sort of corporal punishment to my kids, I’m actually just trying to keep them warm, which means I’m also the meanest mom ever. I even take it so far as to make them wear clothes without stains and holes. Some days I even make them wear socks.
Mean Moms sometimes don’t play with them so they’ll use their imaginations.
I’m so mean, my kids know it’s not my job to entertain them. Yes, we do fun stuff together, but sometimes I say no, and they have to use their imaginations. Sometimes, if I’m feeling really mean, they get shooed outside so I can have some peace and quiet.
We make them earn their rewards.
While kids in 2016 think they deserve a cell phone at the ripe old age of 8 years old, mean moms know better. We let them know that they have to earn that right, and they also need to have a few more years of existence before that’s going to happen.
When I wanted to start driving, my dad said, “get a job.” I’m so mean, my kids won’t get something just because they want it. They have to earn it. Good grades, good behavior, whatever. Nothing is free when you’re a mean mom.
We make them do chores (sometimes without an allowance).
Mean moms love to make their kids do chores. We don’t even pay them for it sometimes. Instead, our kids learn that being in a family means everyone chips in. And, that means sometimes they don’t get to play until they finish their work.
Mean Moms don’t allow stuff other parents are doing.
Mean moms know their kids best. And, we aren’t afraid to say no even when other parents are saying yes. Your friend got to go to a midnight showing of the latest action movie at 8 years old? Good for him. But, we have different rules. What works for another family may not work for us, and mean moms don’t care what other moms are doing.
We make them eat something other than mac and cheese for every meal.
We also make them finish their dinner, and say no to snacks when they eat 1.5 bites. I know it sounds awful because it would be a tragedy for my kid to have to eat a vegetable, but mean moms know that sometimes, you just have to eat something green to get a little Red Dye #40 in your diet.
We ignore them sometimes.
When they throw a massive tantrum, or are screaming because they didn’t get their way, mean moms walk away and ignore it. If they keep begging, we’re experts at locking ourselves in a closet and pretending they aren’t there. And, if they start banging on the door, we put in our headphones.
Mean Moms teach them that the world, does not revolve around them.
By definition, mean moms don’t put up with any crap. And, the world doesn’t revolve around our kids. OK, it kind of does, but we don’t need to let them know that do we? Of course we don’t. Because we’re mean the meanest moms ever. And we kinda like it that way.
This post originally appeared on Scary Mommy.
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LOVE THIS! I am absolutely a ‘mean mom’ too… Gotta share. 🙂
Lol! Ooooooh! I’m so mean! I get called this by my 4 year old because I say no to her pushing her sister around, or having cookies for lunch!
I almost cried when I read this. In a good cry kind of way. It let’s me know that what I’m doing isn’t a mean thing and I hope that other moms out there will understand why I parent the way I do. Thank you for sharing this article!
This is the stupidest thing I’ve ever read. Children don’t throw massive tantrums for you to ignore them, the worst thing you can do is neglect them
A kid needs to be love and cherished.
You don’t have to put strict boundaries for them, let them put their own, trust them.
Ignoring a child during a tantrum is hardly neglect. It is teaching the child that negative behavior will not yield whatever it is that the child wants. If you give in during a tantrum or the child begging for something, you are reenforcing that behavior. The child thinks “If I want this, all I have to do is beg Mom or throw a tantrum and she will do it to make me happy.” It is extremely difficult to ignore your child during these times, but it’s because you do love and cherish them that you are willing to suffer so they learn how to be responsible for their actions.
My goodness!!! so glad I read this before going to bed. My mom was a mean mom and I hated it but I love her 100 times more for it now, I wouldn’t be who I am today if it wasn’t for her.Now I’m a mean mom and proud !!!